Hide and Go Seek

By NuLife4Ric

I've been divorced now for over five years and my ex-wife continues to limit my access to our children. Ever since the day the divorce process started, my ex has played a perverse form of hide-and-go-seek-the-children; clearly it's not a game I wish to play. I'm sure many of you are wondering what did I do to my ex-wife to deserve this kind of treatment. Here's where I take issue with the common assumption that one ex did something to the other ex to prompt mistreatment.

Each summer we split the months equally.The last two years the children have been with me from the end of June to the end of July and my ex has had them in August even though we are supposed to alternate each year.

My expecation was for me to spend undivided quality time with the children with limited interruption. Typically she's called approximately four or five times during their summer break with me. I'm okay with it because that comes to about once a week or so. So, I'll share this with you, during the school year, including various holidays, etc., the court order states that the parent who has the children must allow the other parent a minimum of four phone visits per week with a 24-hour return call clause. Customarily, I speak with my kids once in a two-month timeframe. I have left numerous messages, but do not get returned calls. This has been going on for years and I'm fed up with it. She knows that I have no desire to take her to court and pay legal fees to fight this battle.

If you're in the same boat, or would like to weigh in, please voice your opinion on this.